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Open Question: I am very confused and am not sure what to decide Can someone please help.?
I’ve been online dating someone that I fell in adore with. We have never met. He is in the air force military and the first month & a half we talked non cease via email and phone because he was in classroom and had the time. Now he’s on actual course flying and has no time. He keeps emphasizing that he has to stay 100% focused or he won’t pass. He keeps saying how stressed out he is. He said when he gets back we’ll look how it goes and if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. We have had a # of heated arguments and going back and forth on the phone. He now tells me that he wants a break, nothing permanent, and will contact me when he gets back home in a month and half’s time. I know it’s a month and half but feels like 10 years. He said he still loves me but it’s draining him. I invested a lot of time & heart and I don’t know if I should really believe this or just move on. It’s difficult because I fell in adore I know its nuts because we never met but its how I feel. He claimed he had fallen in adore with me too. :
9 Mar 2010, 5:49 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Will i ever find a boyfriend?
i never had a boyfriend and at my age i think i should im 21 but im shy and that. i dont go out alot. so i probably start going out. so where can i find a boyfriend? lol i dont trust online relation because people lie. theres this guy i think he likes me but im not sure. am i weird? i think i am lol i might do a online dating but im not sure. its risky
10 Mar 2010, 7:42 am | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Do you enjoy being single?
I've been a widow for 3 years, my husband died in Iraq. Unfortunately I didn't have any kids with my husband. I live in a tiny 3 bedroom home that I bought and fixed it up myself. I really like doing things by myself. I don't date, smoke, drink, have sex with anyone, nor do I have any wish to do those things. My basic routine is exercise, work 1st job, work 2nd job, work 3rd job, clean my home, pay bills, do laundry, cook, store for groceries, and go to church on sunday mornings. I don't possess a TV, but I do have tons of books. Oh I am taking classes online to receive another degree, that's pretty much it. And I do dabble on Yahoo answers. I like being able to go, do, and look without having to worry about someone else. There are times when I miss the physical side of being in a relationship. But honestly, I don't even want to open that can of worms. So I'm curious, Do you like being single?
9 Mar 2010, 8:15 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Why do i feel intimated to meet men in person that i met online?
I recently joined online dating and i have met guys that i am attracted to and interested in.Whenever they want to meet in person,i always make excuses because i feel intimated and nervous to meet them in person.We exchanged pics so they know how i look like but i still feel nervous to meet them in person Why do i feel this way?
10 Mar 2010, 4:06 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Broke up with my boyfriend, but i still love him...?
I had an online relationship. We each loved each other but i dont know why he loved me..... he was so much better than i am. We were dating about three weeks, but in that time he had tried to leave me three times, but said he couldnt. He wanted me to live with him, and i did too but he lives on the other side of the country and i am not even a legal adult yet.... So i knew i couldnt go on like that longer because my parents didnt even know about it and wouldnt allow it if they did, and i couldnt go around behind their backs and do that to them..... I adore him so much and i tried to tell him that but now he thinks i never loved him and still dont, and that i should just leave him alone. I only did this yesterday, and have been crying over and over.... i feel like a hateful person worth dirt..... i cant believe myself... i tried to tell him and he still doesnt believe me. I told him maybe when i am older it would work better... but he didnt even respond..... i want to be his pal still but he says he cant be just friends with someone he loves so much....... I am a sick person...... how can i show him i do adore him and........ oh i dont know what to do. someone, please give me advice? He said the reason he wanted to break up was that he was no good for me and that i deserve someone better. That he didnt deserve me. Then he said he couldnt and that he did adore me and that he just couldnt leave me.....
9 Mar 2010, 6:59 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: does anybody know of any reality games online that simulate real life like really good not just an online...?
game where you "date" and chat people?? i receive rlllllyyyyy bored after school bc im home alone nd not allowed to go anywhere so i wuld like to know of a game you dnt have to pay for or download
9 Mar 2010, 5:42 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: why do i feel intimated to meet men in person that i met online?
I recently joined online dating and i have met guys that i am attracted to and interested in.Whenever they want to meet in person,i always make excuses because i feel intimated and nervous to meet them in person.Why do i feel this way? no,i am not fat or ugly.We exchangephotos so they obviosly know how i look like
10 Mar 2010, 3:37 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: 10 points for your honest opinion! Don't you think this is weird?
I met this guy Rob on this online dating website. On our first date, I met his friends and they were really nice. I have hung out with Rob and his friends a few times now, but Rob pays for my drinks every time we go out and he appears to like me. Over the weekend, I hung out with Rob and his pal was there, too. Now, I got a message on this dating website from his other pal, saying that he heard we had a good time over the weekend. So, he found me somehow. Don't you think that's weird? Why do you think he did that? Is it possible he messaged me without Rob knowing? I just feel weird about this, but it may be fine. His friends are really important to him. What do you think?
10 Mar 2010, 10:59 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Why does my boyfriend subscribe/view porn/dating websites that I do not know about?
This has been an ongoing problem. He is very forgetful and sometimes leaves his e-mail and social networking sites signed in when he gets off of my computer; not to mention the recent history being packed with adult websites, however this is not the part that really bothers me. One time, I found that he had set up an account to a website that is for people who want to have affairs - I was obviously upset and confronted him about it and he felt really bad about it. He even logged onto it in front of me to show me that he had not used it, and sure enough, the account was only a few days old with no mail/friends/recent searches, etc. and when we were done he deleted it immediately. After that incident, he has been more careful with covering his tracks (i.e. deleting the history and e-mails), yet he still leaves them open for anyone else who comes along. I have confronted (not in a threatening or crazy way) him in the past and tried to talk to him about it but he just denies that there is any problem with our relationship and that he does not care about that stuff and told me 'dont worry about it.' He also denies the fact that he is constantly searching for and befriending extremely pretty girls online - even though I have already discovered that as well. Im not crazy and I dont want anyone to think that I go looking for problems or things to battle about - I am usually a Iaid back person and I dont want any of this! I know that this seems like a HUGE invasion of privacy however, I think many people in my situation would look too if their significant other just leaves it open/signed in from time to time. The weird part is that he has been signing up for other sites that are less popular, and some unheard of, as compared to myspace and facebook (the ones I am on). Despite every of this, I do adore him dearly, and that is why this is making me crazy and perhaps, somewhat blind to what might be going on. Is he trying to tell me something? Is he thinking about cheating? Is he just 'looking' and fantasizing about women that he deems 'unattainable'?
9 Mar 2010, 10:28 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: how can i help my friend? he has worked very hard in school to come to America.?
this is a lifelong dream for him. this girl has a kid and he thinks because she has been cheated on so much by men that she has finally decided that she wants a good guy. she says she will wait on him to receive here because she is really in adore with him. it will be about 17 months before he comes. he has relatives who have long lived in America but he messing up big time.as never dated anyone because arranged marriage is the thing in his country and he was not interested in that at every. can anyone offer me advice. i think he is messing up big time by committing to someone that he met online. he also plans to attend an ivy league college to receive his masters degree. can anyone offer any good advice?
9 Mar 2010, 8:57 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: any midwifes online? lol?
Iv posted this already but im still un-sure :( if my girlfriends conception date was the 17th of November 2009 what date did she actually fall pregnant... if that makes sense im well confused i thought the 17th is when she actually fell pregnant is it or isnt it? and if its not can someone work out the date please we split up the 27th of November then she then slept with another man on the 3rd of December... would the baby be mine or his? every this confuses me lol.... i dont receive it we broke up like 14weeks ago and the midwife says shes 16weeks pregnant :S first 2 weeks shes not really pregnant? well sounds bad but surly its still my sperm up there lol...? please add me to facebook names shane johnson have a look at my wall its every about this pregnancy thing i really dont understand arrive on i mean i am a guy after every we have no idea lol
9 Mar 2010, 7:35 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Have you ever went on a date with someone you met online?
If so,were they better looking in person or on the pictures? Were you disappointed? Share your story
9 Mar 2010, 3:32 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: is my ex confusing me?
i dated this guy for over a year but we almost made it offical but he joined the frat and he clip everything off. I went back for him and he refused and then he got himself a girlfriend (we didn;t talk for 4 months and how can he got over me so quickly?) he told me that hes depressed and wants to be friends but I can't do that. i was pretty upset and got depressed. so everything i look this girl (this girl is from a soriotory). I look down on myself. and afterwards, we had a little party, he came without his gf and he wouldn't look or say hi to me and then later i started to take pictures and he told me not to post any pictures online and i heard him and said "im not" so we played a little beer pong, he missed and pointed at me and said "why did you look at me?" and i just gave him my palm and said "talk to the hand!" I mean, he tries to act nice when ppl is around but when I'm with him alone, he acts so mean. I overheard his convo with my pal saying that his current g/f is a stuck up but my roommate have been telling me that they are getting closer. do you think he still likes me or uses her as a rebound? i'm so confused or hes trying to be friends, but how can you be friends with someone so quickly??
10 Mar 2010, 1:21 am | click here for answers
Open Question: If i give an online business representative my debit card no, exp date, csc, can they use my money?
A got a phone call from a guy,he's a representative working for an online money making business and wants my debit card number, exp. date, and csc number. He said that i can receive started by buying a tutorial package for just $3.95, so if i give him the numbers can he use my money?
9 Mar 2010, 10:12 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: so i told this girl that i was going bald, and i don't know if she's lying...saying that it doesn't bother her?
i've been dating this girl for a week or so. usually i wear a cap, so she hasn't seen me with my cap off. and i'm balding. i just told her that i was online, and she said it wouldn't turn her off. but i can't tell if she's lying since we just chatted about it online. i know this isn't a chilly question to answer, since it's not an easy yes-or-no question, so i guess i'm seeing if i should be worried about it.
10 Mar 2010, 12:57 am | click here for answers
Open Question: What to do if online dating isn't going well?
I am not getting much of a response. I put up nice photos & a description, and am beginning to wonder if somethings wrong with me. I went online because I wasn't finding people in person. I won't post my photo on here because I don't think it can be deleted. If you think you can offer something constructive I would be very grateful. Thanks
9 Mar 2010, 3:35 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I don't know what to do with this guy, I'm suffering. Please professional help?
Ok, short story, I met this guy online while having some common friends from the past and went out a few times. His intentions obviously were having sex and only one time and then disappear forever. That's what I've heard he did to a numerous girls from our common friends and also sensed it from his behavior. Since I didn't know him very well I tried to not receive close physically at first and he started showing less interest and stopped perusing me. Sounds like a normal not working date right? But the problem is this guy keeps in touch with me for the past four years!! Yes, four years now, sending very brief emails, text messages, or chat for a few seconds and then disappear. He doesn't ask me out or say anything special, only says: hey naughty girl, how have you been? Or, I haven't heard from you, where are you? And after about 2 weeks or 20 days it's like he had an alarm set on he sent something to look if I'm ok!! I tried if I respond or don't respond the result will be them same. He keeps doing what he does. The reason I waited so long was because I was madly in adore with him without even really dating him. I though his charming and really my type but the more he does this random messages the more I hate him because he doesn't communicate clearly what he wants. Anyway, someone please tell me what does he want and for how long it will go on like this if I ignore him and please tell me how I should react? Whatever I tried doesn't work and he doesn't do it in a way that I can file a harassment or something because the intervals are so long and each time in a different way. Besides I don't wanna show him I'm mad or I receive irritated by his actions. I also don't want to make him hate me. Please help me guys. You know better. What should I do???
10 Mar 2010, 4:09 am | click here for answers
Open Question: How to not feel lonely or unhappy?
I am finding it really difficult to find any happiness in my life, and thought I could receive some unbiased opinions from this site. I am a student who is working on a degree and also has a diploma below my belt. I am almost graduated, and hang out with friends each weekend. However, I am single and find myself very lonely. I had a boyfriend for 6 years and now have been single for the last three. I cant seem to find someone new. I hang around whit a lot of guys as I work in a male dominated field, however I don't have any interest for any of them. I am on online dating, but still can't seem to find anyone. Anyways, I find myself very lonely and unhappy. My current job is a workterm and I am not getting the type of work I need to fulfill graduation. I just feel hopeless. I would never attempt suicide, however I don't look any happiness in living. I just feel stuck. I have also been to a doctor multiple times and have been told I don't have depression! How can I change this feeling of lonliess and general sadness?? I feel I am going though every the right motions, but not getting any results! I do not receive any satisfaction out of life. If anyone has any suggestions, it would be much appreciated!
9 Mar 2010, 3:08 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: do women think they are better or smarter or superior to men?
I receive this feeling in the last decade, especially on TV, commercials, the view, hillary clinton, a lot of movies also, dating online, maria shriver's a lady's nation, etc....am I paranoid or there is something happening in US
9 Mar 2010, 7:54 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: my bf keeps changing!?
he truely loved me we shared best of adore for about 4 yrs but every now i then he changes he stops wanting to call me or being interested in me for no reason!! and he spends alot of time online and i dont have his passwords and i feel that now its too tardy (or maybe to early for our relation) to ask his for his passwords and iam confused why does he became so un interested in me and their is no reason! he travels alot! so usually when he arrive back he misses me alot and we have hot dates and every now but his last time .. he didnt call me the entire time for missing me he just did call me to tell me i call u! we r ok! and iam afraid he is gonna break my heart coz he cant suddenly not miss me and not be interested unless their is something going on and he changes his mind alot and it every dont sound good to me talking to him about this when he just got back is not chilly! or nice thing to do! i havent cease crying for the last two days! after every he has been my bf for the last 4 yrs! and i never cheated on him but what if he will! or is! i donno what to handle anymore my heart and feelings and whats right for me or dealing with him! but i cant pick one side i cat say i wanna do whats right for me (just me) / or whats right for him! relationships dont work like that! their is 2 sides envolve
10 Mar 2010, 1:58 am | click here for answers
Open Question: guy who is seeing me, his ex is winning him back, what do I do?
I Met a guy who came to me several times. I was in a weird phase of my life where, I was having sexual encounters, and I never used to do that. When I realized I liked him more than just a series of encounters, I realized I made a mistake. Anyway, His ex came up on facebook, she was bugging him a lot, but even when he was at my place I saw him answering a phone from an obvious girl, and she was whining I could hear her voice. But he would close off his phone. So I didn't know what that was...but over time I realized she was an ex, and when I did, and he knew I could look the photos of them partying together online, on facebook, he clip me off facebook. However he still came to look me. I felt really doomed yet still tried to make something out of this mess. I wanted to receive to know him, to date him, and I couldn't seem to receive things the way they were on the first few dates where he seemed interested in pursuing me, and he did every the calling and pursuing. So I ended up setting up an account on facebook in which he voluntarily added me, without me even ASKING, he just added me, thinking I was one of his buddies. So I watched the activity. So when he comes here he says every kinds of lies, and yet online I look and look the whole truth. He said to me one night...I'm fucking someone else. Which to me sounded almost like, she wasn't really anyone important, just sex. And yet online she was constantly saying wonderful things about him. and saying I adore you babe ♥ etc....until right after the night he said he was fucking someone else....he finally said I adore you so much babe :) ;) but she would be leaving like, 20 I luv you's and he just leaves 1. And she she goes every crazy. What I realized is, she chased him, invited him out to parties, called him. and they were broken up for about 8 months. And then got together within the last 3 months. But he still doesn't say much to her. Then the photos continued. They'd be together...she looks like he is her world, and he looks like, he thinks she's a prize, not like he's in adore or protecting her, but more like, look at me I'm the macho guy here. My pal looked at it, and she thought he was "playing her" Now I think she is pregnant to be frank. I saw comments about her belly, and how the "lil one" misses you babe! like I think her interference in my 8 month relation with him is GOING WELL OVER THE BOUNDARY. And woudl almost look like I'm the one interfering. but I wasn't he came to ME. And silly, the last time I saw him, a week ago, after sex, he said, "we every have to pay for our sins"...what's that for, a CHILD perhaps? he got a girl pregnant that now he owes a relationship to? If he's an orphan, I can look how he would want take on this duty. But it's unfair to me. I never asked for this, I always put on my profiles I'm NOT looking for casual encounters, I make it very clear I'm looking for a real boyfriend. I don't know how to screen out guys that are wrong for me when they won't let me learn anything about them. And why HER friends think he is ok, to me is weird. I noticed he had another pal with a child, and I almost think they every "cover for each other" Again if it wasn't for their publicity on facebook I wouldn't have known! :) I wasn't supposed to know, but I got added back by being sneaky sooo, I know! But I deserve to screen, I'm not doing this in order to ruin every their lives. I never told the other lady about me. I never bugged the other guys lady about him either. I never used the evidence against them. I simply use it for my possess self. How else can you screen if you don't KNOW anything. You gotta receive sneaky and Find OUT. Now obviously she means more to him than me, because I messed up and had sex with him too early and made myself into more of a booty call. Or maybe, they were just taking abreak from their relationship, or maybe it's an open relationship. every I know is his status says "single" and I look him going on there a lot and adding new girls, and her's says "In a relationship" and she did say on her wall the he was her boyfriend. But... well what can I possibly do? Should I say "I luv you baby" on emails?? Should I cease emailing? He said to me also, he's going to be busy and he will look me in three weeks. Ok obviously I'm not number one here... what feels unfair is, I feel like she is the one who intruded. I may have made a mistake, but then again who's to say she didn't have sex with him early too?? right?? I mean, I am a lot older than him, there's another factor. But he isn't mean about age, he acts very accepting of differences...he is Iranian, an orphan, and has a native Canadian adopted sister. His friends are not every typical types of people you'd look a young guy with...I think he's pretty open and unique. Is he playing the waiting game to look if she turns out? ARE WE every BEING PLAYED??? every of my friends think the obvious, I was used, he's no good. But really like...I sorta don't
9 Mar 2010, 5:03 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Online homework/student planner recommendations?
I've been using Soshiku, which I like a lot. However, I'd really like to find something that will let me say what time of day assignments are due, as well as prioritize them and even say when I'm going to do them (separate from due date). I'm also about to receive a Droid (phone) and it would be a bonus if it works well with those. Free or inexpensive. Thanks!
10 Mar 2010, 1:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What does it mean if she snubs me back?
Okay so a few weeks ago my ex who I still keep in touch with (only on IM) siphoned out of me that I was dating a new chick. We weren't anything serious, but only broke up 2 months ago. I didn't want to seem like a dick and flaunt it, but she managed to annoy me enough to receive intel on her lol. After a few days of interrogating, I began ignoring her. Just 'cause she's being way too nosy with relentless questions about the new girl. So I began to not go on as frequently as before or not IM her at every. Even before the new girl talk, I didn't initiate the messaging, she'd message me first and we began chatting. The last time we were both online, I got that awkward feeling when neither messaged the other. It's like she's waiting for me to start the convo or something. If she IMed me, I would message her back to not be a dick, but then find an excuse to end it before it went to questioning. I just don't know what it means when she goes from asking a ton of questions about the new girl to being silent (only after I do). I didn't plan on telling her at every, but I don't think it helped that right after that I go silent. It just got real annoying REALLY quick to be interrogated by her lol. This is the longest time I haven't said anything to her since the breakup. I just don't know if every these things coming together finally hit home for her. I don't wanna ignore her, 'cause I moved on and so did she, considering she was/is dating a guy (I'm not as nosy as her and don't really care). I just know that if we talk, somehow she'll somehow twist the convo to the new girl. I'm trying to receive over her and the best step on moving on is dating other people, but I don't want to mislead things by making her think "oh great he's dating and suddenly has no time for me?" I guess I don't wanna send any mixed feelings and manage to make her interested in or want me again 'cause I'm not around. Kinda like that saying, "you want what you can't have." Recap: - Ex asks a bunch of not too personal, but nitpicking questions about my new "pal". Almost like subtly comparing herself. - I receive annoyed and snub her. - I think she's snubbing me back now... or waiting for me to initiate something. - Ex and I haven't been apart since the breakup (not sure if my silence is working against me) So... is she just being childish out of spite by snubbing me back... or too annoyed about the situation to talk? If you have any alternative questions and/or suggestions, I have my ears open. Thanks in advance.
9 Mar 2010, 3:15 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Verizon Call Center in Greenville, SC?
I applied for a customer rep position on Feb. 15 and received an email on Feb 24 wanting to talk to me over the phone. Had the phone interview that afternoon. I was scheduled to take their assessment test on Feb. 26, which I passed. The HR department there said I would receive a callback wanting to set up another interview. It is now March 9th and I haven't heard anything back. They do a criminal background check. The only thing that would arrive back negative on mine is a wrong date which I cleared up with the recruiter and she promised she fixed it. I emailed the recruiter March 7th and just asked how my application process was going, but haven't received an email back. I thought about calling her, but I don't want to keep annoying them or whatever. I'm not sure what to do, I want the job. I've read some reviews online and some people were hired in 3 days and others months later. Should I continue to wait on her to call me or just call her? Or should I just give up on the job totally?
9 Mar 2010, 12:28 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How can internet get you into real trouble?
Well. That is what happened for example to Colleen LaRose, who also called herself Fatima LaRose online, allegedly posted a comment on YouTube in June 2008 saying she wanted to help "the suffering Muslim people". According to the indictment filed in a federal court in Pennsylvania she sent emails to unnamed co-conspirators offering to become a martyr as well as to use her American background to avoid detection. The indictment accuses LaRose of agreeing in March 2009 to marry a co-conspirator from a south Asian country who was trying to obtain residency in Europe. He is alleged to have urged her to go to Sweden, find the unnamed Swedish man "and kill him". The indictment claims she tried to lift money over the internet, lure others to her cause and lied to FBI investigators. LaRose was arrested after returning to the US in October 2009 on a charge related to the theft of a US passport, according to court documents. If convicted on the four counts in the indictment, which was dated 4 March 2010, LaRose could face a sentence of life in prison and a fine of $1m (£670,000).
10 Mar 2010, 6:26 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Am i the dad? hard to work dates out.?
my girlfriend and i split up on the 27th of November she then slept with another man on the 3rd december... she finds out shes pregnant and the due date is 25th Aug 2010 we split up 14weeks ago shes 16weeks pregnant... but people are saying she fell on the 2nd of December i cant work this out... she hasnt cheated when we was together she just slept with this other man on the 3rd of december when i work it out people say i have to take 2weeks off of the 16weeks why is this? i just need to know if its mine or not i cant snooze... i did an online calculator from the due date 25th aug 2010 and that said conception date 17th November is the conception date when she ACTUALLY fell pregnant or do i have to add 2weeks on top of the 17th of November? im well confused and sleepy stressed i dont know what to do and need help... i find it difficult to understand every of this so could you please let me know in a simple way that i might understand please... many thanks all
9 Mar 2010, 10:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What should I do? Should I text him or should I wait for him to reply?
There's this guy who I'm dating. I've knew him for 2 days in person. I added him as a pal on Face- book and he sent me a text message asking me to tell me more about myself. I sent him a message about myself. I saw that below his profile that the messages were unread. He was just online 10 minutes ago and he later signed off without replying to my message. I wanted to know if I should answer and ask him if he got my message, but I'm afraid that he'll just think that I am being too clingy or stalker... ish. Does anyone have any idea what I shoul do. If I should answer to him, how can I do it without sounding too desperate?
9 Mar 2010, 8:05 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: could someone help me with this question please?
well, im planning on having a bunch of flowers delivered to my mum at her work place on saturday in time for mothers day, we are now on wednesday and im ordering these flowers from an online florist, the only date i'm allowed to select is Saturday 13th March 2010 so does this mean if i order the flowers today they will be sent off today in time for saturday, or they will be sent off on saturday and receive here for like monday/tuesday? it says "Please allow 1-2 working days for delivery. We normally despatch two working days prior to requested date if possible i dont fully understand. it also says "earliest delivery date 13th march" so if i order now will it be here for saturday?
10 Mar 2010, 12:20 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: My family is trying to do everything they can to break us up...What should I do?
When I was 15 I met a guy online who lived two states away from me, and a year later we finally met in person. (I was 16 when finally meeting him, he was 17) We started dating, and my parents liked him..But one day my sister found a hickey on my neck, told my mom, and my parents refused to let me look him again. Last year when I was 17, my parents also found out that I lost my virginity to him back when I was dating him. Well me and him waited 2 years (until my 18th b-day) to finally look each other again. At this point my mom could tell that me and him really did care for each other, considering that we went 2 years without seeing each other just to be together. So last week (when I turned 18) I flew up to spend the week with him, and just got back yesterday. We had an amazing time:) and are now finally dating, again.....And I'll be visiting him again in 2 weeks. Well when I got back home, my mom told me that my older brother (26 yrs old) came over to our home while I was gone, and argued with my mom about how she was a horrible mom for letting me go visit that guy. My brother told my mom that I had no right for being up there visiting him, and that she needs to tell me that I can't date him if I plan on living here with her. My mom told my brother that she's not going to cease me from dating him, and that we really want to be with each other. Well I got online and checked my facebook, and found that my dad and sister had wrote on my wall that they're not glad about the fact that I'm dating this guy, and that the "dislike it".. It's REALLY bothering me that my family (except my mom) are not only not supporting me in dating him, but that they're arguing about it, writing on my facebook where every my friends and relatives can look, AND they're trying to receive me kicked out of my home if I don't end it with him..every because I had sex with him before marriage. I'm 18 years old, and I think I'm old enough to know if I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex or not. I lost my virginity 2 years ago, and I still have yet to regret it. Like I said before, It's one thing that they don't support it, but it's a total different thing that they're trying to cease it. I feel like they're honestly trying to make my life theirs. What should I do? I want them to just accept it, (they don't have to like it, just accept it) AND I want them to be a little respectful and not write about on my facebook, and constantly complain about it. My sister (whos 22 years old) even got her male pal to pick up my cell phone when my bf called, and pretended to be the "other guy". (Trying to make it look like I'm cheating) I just want them to cease.
10 Mar 2010, 2:33 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: So I started emailing a guy I met online on 2/22/2010. Our 1st date was 2/28/2010 & we went to Disneyland. Our?
2nd date was 3/6/2010. We went out to dinner and since it was raining opted to going to his place to watch a movie. We started cuddling and kissing and one thing led to another. We were basically humping each other(with some clothes missing). We are supposed to look each other on Friday again and Saturday. Thing is that text msgs and phone calls have kinda cooled off. He does still respond to my texts but I dunno I'm feeling like maybe I jumped the gun and should not have let it receive as far as it did on Saturday. Any thoughts. He kept saying over and over how good I smelled. & how it's totally out of character for him and how he likes me and what not. He also made sure I was aware how attracted to me he was while he was walking me to my car. Also he's always still logged on to the dating website. Like constantly. Also he's 32 and I'm 27 if that makes any difference/.
9 Mar 2010, 1:52 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How do I "let go" of what happened? Only 30 & up, please... This is LONG. Sorry?
I recently turned 40, have been through a lot with relationships and am where I know I want to be with a man. I would like to be married again, have a man that knows what it is to treat how he is treated. I found one. Or so I thought. I was happier than I've ever been (I've had only long term relationships ranging from the least at 2 years, top of 8 with marriage). From the beginning there were the usual cover-ups (which I find that most do, but I don't tolerate - Yes, I am always honest about my past & gift.. avoids issues). First, we agreed not to look other people-his idea and I was smitten so agreed. He said he had to go to church one day. After I talked to him a little more since he was vague, discovered that he was supposed to go with the girl he just broke up with (to date me). He got a free card on that one after a "chat" about what to expect dating me. Then, he had a pal that came into town and I asked him if they had ever been together, he said no. They went downtown to a Cubs game and sightseeing and he took her to the airport. Granted, he came over after the game and was at my home before he took her to the airport. No, I never met her. We went away for the weekend, had a few drinks, he got a text telling him she was moving back and I asked why she wanted his help to move, conversation got longer. Apparently drank too much because said something about sleeping with her a long time ago. I asked him why he lied and he said he didn't realize I was that chilly about past relationships and felt like he needed to in order to avoid an argument. Another "chat". Yes, I'm chilly headed. I didn't feel I had a reason to be jealous by the way he treated me, spent every second with me that he wasn't working, text me every day, etc. Everyone who knew him said he was a totally different person and I am the best thing that ever happened to him. NOW, here's where the complications start. He has bartended since I met him. 19 years part time now. No steady full time job that was over 3 years it seems (last full time he got let go from was a year ago for real estate appraisals and his best pal was who employed him. Worked when he wanted. He owns and rents a townhome property as well. His brother lived with him and gave him 700/month in rent. He always had money to spend when we went out and $500 for his boat to "fix"... Then for 2 months over the summer my contract went from 40 hours to 20 hours. We spent a lot of time together with the kids and alone - usually four days/nights a week, if not more. He bartended Wed/Fri/Sat and made about $1k/wk. What I didn't know? CC bills and back taxes owed... also that the renter wasn't making her payments on time and he didn't have the money to front for mortgage or association so the assn sued him and thats how I found out TWO DAYS before we moved in together that he NEEDED a full time job the entire time we were dating and just didn't receive one because he liked spending time with me. ??? HUH? OK, well, I guess his frivolous spending wasn't going toward his cell, trash or cable... they were every intermittently turned off with "I keep forgetting to pay the stuff on time, I should pay online so my credit doesn't go bad". trash cans were taken... still gone ... new renter doesn't need them. So, I said he had to receive a full time job or kick his renter out. Easier said than done... he got another bartending job by me before he rented his home (second property - both now breaking even)... however, two and a half months later, not even a Home Depot job. He tries, has arrive close, but owes me about $1k from our agreed on rent. My problem here is that had he told me he couldn't help out, I would've told him to stay put til he figured it out. I'm a single mom of two boys, work as a consultant from home and JUST started to receive ahead and have over $5k in the bank in October. THEN, I started my possess company based off of a referral from what I've done for 6 years. I had ONE shot, hired three people - he was one of them because he ASKED and said he could do a great job - it was money. $800 a month working TEN hours a week. Yes, it was on the phone setting appointments. SO WHAT? You receive no rude people, just people they are already approved. He was given the "company memo" because I could tell he wasn't doing his job... I was sitting right next to him. He knew my reputation was on the line, knew he wasn't doing what he was asked, got himself fired with the HEAD internal wholesaler, who convinced the others to move to where he went. He lost my two best friends their jobs and they quit other jobs to work from home. I have been doing this six years and YES, you DO have to call everyday if they ask, etc. Yes, I talked to him before it got bad, I sent an email to every making it look like new policies were in place, just to receive him to make the required calls. Nope. He lied and said that they told him he didn't need to call in and that Thanksgiv
10 Mar 2010, 8:09 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Need help implementing an E-R-Diagram into relationships within Access?
I am having a lot of problems implementing my ERD into Access. I always receive confused with relationships, and not even sure how I can test to look if they are right. I am sure of my entities and foreign keys, but making them into relationships is driving me nuts. No online tutorials or book has helped me better understand. My entities and Primary Key's and Foreign Keys are listed below: (I am sure these are right, but please do not hesitate to inform me of having additional foreign keys) PLEASE HELP me understand. Zip Code (PK)Zip Id City State Genre (PK)GenreID Type Actor (PK)ActorId Lname Fname Customer (PK)CustomerID Lname Fname ZipCode Phone# Total Price Movie (PK)MovieID Movie Name Price (FK)Genre Rentals (PK)RentalsID Date Time Days Cast (PK)CastID (FK)ActorID (FK)MovieID
9 Mar 2010, 2:15 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: i think my best friend is making people up?
i have been friends with this person for about three years now and recently she says she has beeen acquaintenced with a few people, that are celebrities that are popular in britain, not very know in the US. I have talked to these two men and become very close and even started relationships with them. Everything was going great until i noticed that i havent met these people in real life, and they only seem to be online when shes at home and i dont receive phone calls because of the long distance. there has been times when im talking to the men online and her on the phone when i hear her typing at the exact same time as the person im talking to on aim. I have asked her what she was doing and she repliese with homework. I am very paranoid and very very afraid that she is making these people up. Honestly i cant handle it mentally if they are not because wev been through so many situations and sometimes what happens with these men is bizarre. I check their websites online and the dates are sketchy, i just i have this bad feeling. I cannot approach my pal about this. Although, i do look emails sent to her account and text messeges on her cell phone that i have secretly seen. How do i find out the truth without offending her in case they turn out to be real? i know shes a writer, she loves to write, i am terribly afraid that this is some story for her. Although, she has heard me sob and talk about these men so many times, how can someone hear that and continue to do something bad? im so confused. there has been talk about meeting them soon, but a date has not been set. do i just be patient and wait or what? how do i find out if shes lying to me? without her actually knowing what im trying to do? PLEASE HELP
10 Mar 2010, 3:42 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Got this girls phone number?
Been doing the online dating thing, chatting online is easy but I've always had trouble when it comes to talking one on one with someone over the phone or in person. Anyone have any good conversation topics I could try? Asked this before, got some good answers but would like a few more.
10 Mar 2010, 12:03 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Broke up with my boyfriend, but i still love him... asked a second time?
I had an online relationship. We each loved each other but i dont know why he loved me..... he was so much better than i am. We were dating about three weeks, but in that time he had tried to leave me three times, but said he couldnt. He wanted me to live with him, and i did too but he lives on the other side of the country and i am not even a legal adult yet.... So i knew i couldnt go on like that longer because my parents didnt even know about it and wouldnt allow it if they did, and i couldnt go around behind their backs and do that to them..... I adore him so much and i tried to tell him that but now he thinks i never loved him and still dont, and that i should just leave him alone. I only did this yesterday, and have been crying over and over.... i feel like a hateful person worth dirt..... i cant believe myself... i tried to tell him and he still doesnt believe me. I told him maybe when i am older it would work better... but he didnt even respond..... i want to be his pal still but he says he cant be just friends with someone he loves so much....... I am a sick person...... how can i show him i do adore him and........ oh i dont know what to do. someone, please give me advice?
9 Mar 2010, 7:35 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What PA Army National Guard unit am I in, and how can I find out what I'll be doing?
I enlisted as a 35F last summer with split option, I'm going to Basic Training this coming summer, then on to Fort Hauchuca. After that I'm scheduled to go to the Monterey language school, to learn I don't know what language. BUT, I have no clue what I'm going to be doing. I don't understand the organization of the Army/Army Guard that well, so though I have been searching and searching the internet and asking my Sergeants, recruiter, and prior service people, I have still not found what I'm looking for, I seem to always ask the wrong question, or when I do find something, it conflicts with something else and I can't figure it out because I don't understand how it works. I've been checking through my paperwork from MEPS, and it says my unit is HHC 28th Infantry Division. When I searched this online however it would not tell me anything specific about the actual unit. I tried finding out how Military Intelligence falls into the 28th, and on one website it said the only place that's at is with the Stryker Brigade. But I'm female, and this sounds like a lot of combat stuff, which apparently I'm not supposed to be below (not that that's how I would like it). Basically, I guess what I would like to know is an up-to-date sort of organizational/structural understanding of the Divisions and Brigades, the 28th Infantry Division in particular. I found one on Wikipedia, but that's where I got the Stryker Brigade and I'm not sure that's right... Also, I've found many questions/answers on here relating to what 35F's do, or how much combat they receive involved in. It would seem that it depends on which person you're talking to. Does anyone out there know of reasons WHY a 35F would be out close combat, or at least deployed or whatnot? I've read that it's a desk job, and I've read that you can receive deployed several times. I'd just like to know, what nice of situations would involve a 35F (with language training) being out in the field, as close as possible to combat? Please, with AND without considering that I'm a female. Also, I've been assured that I can request deployments as much as I like, though I'll probably be temporarily reassigned to a different unit. Is it really that easy, or will it be harder?
9 Mar 2010, 1:14 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: somebody help with my adobe reader?
my programs arent working because it says that applications are not found. i realized that my adobe reader is not up to date and is still 7.0 i checked online and the newest one is 9. when i tried to install version 9, it says i need something to run that. it only shows the 7.0 so when i clicked it it wont let me install version 9. do i unistall 7.0, restart my cpu, then install 9 online? will it be able to work? i tried doing this and it said i wont be able to use the adobe anymore. i didnt risk it because i needed 9. somebody help me?
10 Mar 2010, 8:01 am | click here for answers
Open Question: why do men date me, go away and come back again?
I was seeing someone I met online for about six months through the holidays. The last thing he did was bought me an expensive xmas gift and then he went away. He was not ready for a commitment so he said. Then immediately he met someone and became committed to them for about six months. That relationship did not work out. He started calling me back up. He likes spending time together, etc.
9 Mar 2010, 2:36 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: should i do something about this guy?
i'm married and i adore my husband till dead, he's the best thing ever happened to me, recently, a month ago, a guy happened to appear (i play this console online and we met there) he lives in another state so everything we did was online or in the computer... happens that i was falling and i think i felt very difficult for this dude (and still loved my husband with every my heart and soul) this guy and i would have this nice of connection and chemistry, but then my best pal (online) happened to start talking with him too.. well he started first, so while he was building me up, he did the same thing with my best girl pal who lives in another state too (away from both of us), recently he simply declare to me his feeling and the same day he did to my girl pal who just started to talk with her recently, i adore her to death but i'm pretty pissed on what he did to me and to us. She doesn't know about what happened, though she knows that he liked me too... i'm mad cause since she's single he just literally ditched me in one night ( I knew it was going to happen someday anyways but not that abrupt and every of the sudden), now they're dating online, yup having an online relationship..and i'm sooo glad for her but very mad at him for what he did. Here's the question... should i have a conversation with my girlfriend about what happened with this dude since he was flirting with her while building a feeling (from me to him)??? or should i just leave it like how it is?, part of me wants to tutor him a lesson or something, wants to be bad (yeah, btw i'm not like that) and part of me is like fudge it let them handle it.... but he acts like if NOTHING at every happened and like if i meant NTHING for him when he said different... what should i do?? OH! please be nice people, i never expected to be in such a situation like this one OH!!! ps: this made me closer to my husband, but still mad and dissapointed at this other dude the dude is single and recently dating my bf who lives in the west coast oh!, no my girl pal is not even close to be the bad person here, i know i did horrible, that's for sure, it's my ego the one that is broken (though i kinda deserve it! lol), but i adore my husband, he's my everything, he knows a little of what happened, not the extended version though thank you Shaun!, i so agree with you, i just needed some other points of view, thank you!, and thank u every for the answers too
9 Mar 2010, 11:23 am | click here for answers
Open Question: In critical need of relationship advice...?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He’s my best pal and the only guy I’ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e-mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn’t talk, just to tell me he loved me. Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e-mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and look each other a few times a week. Recently, we’ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I’m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I’ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can’t find the time to send me ONE IM (because that’s every I ask for, just so I can know he’s thinking about me). The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we’ve fought about it the past several days. I’ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We’re both miserable right now. I know I’m pushing him away, but I’m not having my needs met. He’s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship. I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I’m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don’t think it’s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED. Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I’m probably being self-destructive in the way I’m going about this. How do I receive what I need without making him miserable? I adore him so much, he’s an amazing guy, but I just don’t feel very loved or even wanted right now. The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize. I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, "fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I wish you're glad about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself- I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go? I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever-gift pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too tardy anyway, isn't it? And despite every of it anyway, every of my .. obvious mind fuckery (I'll admit it, it wasn't fair).. he would have still stayed if he loved me, though, right? He would've tried to work it out, no? If he really loved me, he wouldn't have left. That's why.. even though I know it sounds so very wrong, I just don't know how to apologize.
10 Mar 2010, 11:24 am | click here for answers
Open Question: in need of relationship advice...?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He’s my best pal and the only guy I’ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e-mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn’t talk, just to tell me he loved me. Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e-mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and look each other a few times a week. Recently, we’ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I’m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I’ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can’t find the time to send me ONE IM (because that’s every I ask for, just so I can know he’s thinking about me). The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we’ve fought about it the past several days. I’ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We’re both miserable right now. I know I’m pushing him away, but I’m not having my needs met. He’s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship. I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I’m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don’t think it’s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED. Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I’m probably being self-destructive in the way I’m going about this. How do I receive what I need without making him miserable? I adore him so much, he’s an amazing guy, but I just don’t feel very loved or even wanted right now. The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize. I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, "fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I wish you're glad about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself- I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go? I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever-gift pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too tardy anyway, isn't it? And despite every of it anyway, every of my .. obvious mind fuckery (I'll admit it, it wasn't fair).. he would have still stayed if he loved me, though, right? He would've tried to work it out, no? If he really loved me, he wouldn't have left. That's why.. even though I know it sounds so very wrong, I just don't know how to apologize.
10 Mar 2010, 3:30 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: I want to tell her that I still love her... How?
I dated a girl online for a while and I fell in adore with her. The online long distance relationship model was tough, so in the end, she broke it off, which I completely understand and don't resent her for at every. We always got on so well and could talk for hours and hours on end without ever getting bored. We decided mutually that we wanted to stay good friends. I've been trying to receive past it and move on with my adore life for about a month now, but to be honest I'm no closer than on the day we split up. I recieved an email from her today which undid every my efforts to move on: She basically told me that she really missed talking to me everyday and was going through a rough time, her new bf was being a jerk and that she wanted to talk to someone she felt a real connection with, me. She ended the message with "adore *her name*" and I got so emotionally confused about it. I didnt know what to think. I'm still so in adore with her and I want to let her know how I feel without sounding like I'm asking for her back. I just need to know if she feels the same, but I know she's not the nice of person to say something like that to me first. She knows I still care a lot about her, and we're very close friends, I'd trust her with anything. I just can't seem to find the right words to express what I'm trying to say. If anyone's good with words and can help me phrase this right, I'd appreciate it a lot. I feel it's important to say it in just the right way. At the moment the best I could arrive up with was to say "I hate to hear that you're unhappy in any way. I care a lot about you, and I always will. In fact, in different ways, I think I will always adore you." I wish you can look what I'm trying to say, I'll always adore her, but not necessarily in a romantic sense. I'd always be there for her whatever she needs. What I said just doesnt seem quite right to me. What do you think?
9 Mar 2010, 1:23 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: critical need of relationship advice!?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He’s my best pal and the only guy I’ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e-mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn’t talk, just to tell me he loved me. Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e-mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and look each other a few times a week. Recently, we’ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I’m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I’ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can’t find the time to send me ONE IM (because that’s every I ask for, just so I can know he’s thinking about me). The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we’ve fought about it the past several days. I’ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We’re both miserable right now. I know I’m pushing him away, but I’m not having my needs met. He’s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship. I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I’m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don’t think it’s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED. Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I’m probably being self-destructive in the way I’m going about this. How do I receive what I need without making him miserable? I adore him so much, he’s an amazing guy, but I just don’t feel very loved or even wanted right now. Everyone- thank you so much for your words and advice. I genuinely do appreciate it. The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize. I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, "fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I wish you're glad about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself- I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go? I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever-gift pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too tardy anyway, isn't it?
9 Mar 2010, 9:55 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Short Sale Vs Foreclosure?
I'm in a situation where I have the opportunity to short sale my property instead of letting it go to foreclosure. This might seem like a very easy answer, of course do the short sale, but there seems to be some compounding factors which may guide to foreclosure being the best option. My unique situation requires that I pay partial closing of $5000 to do the short sale. I'll explain.... My outstanding balance on the home is $205k, the buyers final offer was $140k, and the bank is requiring $145k to close. My realtor is requiring me to pay $5k to close the gap between the buyer and bank. The buyer appears to be some investment company that buys distressed properties for profit. My reason for questioning the short sale... I've read an article online about, "Deficiency Judgments." The bank can seek a deficiency judgment for the shortage on the actual amount received versus the amount that was due. Using my unique situation, the judgment may be recorded against me for $60,000. If the bank does pursue a deficiency judgment against me, I may have to file bankruptcy at a later date to remove the judgment. I refuse to pay 5 grand and still end up having to claim bankruptcy... Is there a way to require the bank to forgive the deficiency..? The property is in Maryland I am 18months behind
10 Mar 2010, 2:23 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How do you tell your best friend your dating her ex?
Okay so where to start.... So not too long ago I signed up for a dating website and when I was on tardy one night I saw someone I recognized and sent him a message saying hi, never thought I'd look you on a dating site, so we talked about it just as if someone ran into an old pal at the store... Any who, so my best pal and the guy online broke up over three years ago, and she has been in a relationship and engaged to another guy that she's been with for two years. But she absolutely hates her ex and has no reason. She threw a fit when she found out he was taking me to dinner and says it's just not right but the answer is why, does she still have feelings for him or what, I've been putting a lot of time and effort into her wedding an planning am I wasting my time if she's throwing a fit over an ex?....What do I do and is it wrong? She's "in adore" with the guy she's engaged to and it's been over three years.
10 Mar 2010, 4:07 am | click here for answers
Open Question: I didn't get my 2009 W2s and I have no idea where to get one!?
I never got my W2's from Arby's OR Hardees and I have no idea what dates I worked or have my last paycheck stub which is what I need when I call the IRS! When I call my employer they tell me to look online and pretty much there is nothing they can do! This is ridiculous and its not even MY fault!! What an I do? The one from Arby's got sent to my old address Im sure which indeed is MY fault but the one from Hardees is not! I am sure they every got them, but many got them WAY after they should have.
9 Mar 2010, 6:38 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Where have all the decent men gone?
I have been divorced for 9 years now, I have had a few boyfriends since, one was a total commitment phobe so that when no-where, the second man i fell totally and utterly in adore but he was married, so I kept my distance until he was single, then after he split with his wife and being told we could be together etc, he dropped me with no explanation and left me completely heart broken and destroyed. I still haven't really got over him. I don't have many single friends, my self confidence is at rock bottom I am terrified of being hurt and used again so I tend to shy away from men. I tried internet dating but only found men looking for unrealistic women or just sex. I recently thought i had found a nice man in Date pad and text and chatted on the phone, he asked me to dinner only to discover that he was still looking for other women online! Why am I never enough, what do I do wrong to make men shun me. I am a nice, loving, fun lady, glad, attractive, difficult working. Im not materialistic or unrealistic just seems every the decent men are married or gay. I'm not desperate like being my possess person, having my possess freedom but I am only human and would adore to have someone special in my life to wrap me in their arms and share some time with etc. There is a little part of my heart that is so lonely, if only I could figure out what is was men want.
10 Mar 2010, 7:26 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Relationship Advice ..really needed.?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He’s my best pal and the only guy I’ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e-mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn’t talk, just to tell me he loved me. Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e-mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and look each other a few times a week. Recently, we’ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I’m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I’ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can’t find the time to send me ONE IM (because that’s every I ask for, just so I can know he’s thinking about me). The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we’ve fought about it the past several days. I’ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We’re both miserable right now. I know I’m pushing him away, but I’m not having my needs met. He’s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship. I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I’m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don’t think it’s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED. Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I’m probably being self-destructive in the way I’m going about this. How do I receive what I need without making him miserable? I adore him so much, he’s an amazing guy, but I just don’t feel very loved or even wanted right now. The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize. I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, "fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I wish you're glad about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself- I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go? I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever-gift pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too tardy anyway, isn't it?
10 Mar 2010, 6:55 am | click here for answers
Open Question: I don't him at all and he is asking me to TEXT him tomorrow so that we can meet up in d aftrnoon. Wt 2 do?
There is this guy from another college but same campus that i don't really know but we have been giving stares to each other every time we look each other in and around the campus. Its always an eye contact and the stares linger nowhere else. I would admit that i initiated the whole thing. Recently i got a facebook pal request from him... ( I would admit again that i fooled around online and found out his name, but i did nothing to make him send the request to me). So we exchanged messages online for 2 days. Today morning we exchanged numbers and in the evening, i got a message from him asking me to text him at 2 in the afternoon so that he can pick me up and we can go to McDonalds!!!???!!!! I am chilly with the fact that its not a date nor do i expect it to be one since we have never spoken to each other in person. But suggesting McD is a little weird... anyways i told him that i would like to go some place else (coz even if we end up having a bad time, at least i would know that i did not compromise on food...lol :P). We will decide the venue tomorrow. But anyways, my question is that what should i do since the guy took the initiative and gave me his number but is now asking ME to text him so that we can make a plan for lunch? What is really going on inside his head? what is he expecting me to do? And what would be the best for me to do? Anyways, he is a muslim and must be conservative. I don't know him at every but would l like to know a male's perspective. Also, I am not sure whether he is single.
10 Mar 2010, 4:16 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I put bought a horse...But I need advice?
This past weekend, my family and I traveled to check out a horse I found online. Log story short, we gave the lady a deposit, and requested that every her shots be UTD and requested a coggins be done as well as a having her shod. The seller agreed, and we set a date for her to meet us so that we could bring the horse home. However, she called me last night saying that the soonest she would be able to have the coggins done would be the original day I was supposed to pick the horse up (now, I'll have to wait an additional 8 days after the original agreed upon date); and did I still want a coggins. I told her since we have 2 other horses at our home, I want the results to the coggins prior to the horse coming home. Now, my question is this. Since we have given her a deposit, do you think it's unreasonable that I request she try to speed this process up? I was thinking perhaps I would offer to help call local vets in their area to try to set up an appointment so that I'll be able to receive my horse on time. Your thoughts??
10 Mar 2010, 2:43 pm | click here for answers